When Bridesmaids go BAD

There is nothing more magical than having your bestest friend the world running up to you and telling you all about how her wonderful boyfriend gave her the most beautiful proposal. Then, when you think it can't get any better, she asks you to be her Bridesmaid!

You are so overwhelmed and happy that you yell "Of course!! Why wouldn't I?" Right there, that moment, is where most wedding drama cumulates.

All wedding horror stories are either about a rouge Bridesmaid/s or a Bridezilla punishing the Bridesmaids. ( Or family matter, but you can't choose your family, so we are not going to focus on that.)

Before saying YES to being a Bridesmaid, really thing of what is expected of you. If you think this means you get to be one of the elite entourage at the wedding and turn up to the parties. You are WRONG!

Being a Bridesmaid means that you, not only attend these parties, you throw them! Because you are usually in a  group with other girls, you have to be considerate of the pricing and other peoples budgets. So, that means you DIY that party! You can not just pay a fact event organiser to take care of  everything.

So here is my list of considerations you should have before agreeing to be someones Bridesmaid:



1 TIME: 
Do not agree to be someones bridesmaid if you do not have time to help!

Everything will be insanely time consuming. You will need to set a side many nights and weekends for wedding dress shopping, DIY imitations and any wedding stationary, bridesmaid shopping, shoe shopping.

Not to mention the time spent planning and organising the Hens party and Kitchen tea! Those also involve decorating, baking and activity planning!

2 MONEY
Do not agree to be a Bridesmaid if you can not afford it!

The brides does not HAVE to may for all your outfit for the wedding. Don't expect it of her. You will have to pay for your hair, make up, dress and accessories for the actual wedding day.

Not to mention paying for food, decorations and a venue for both the Hens and Kitchen Tea/ Bridal Shower.

3 PATIENCE: 
There will be personality clashes. People will have different opinions. Its your job to be as accommodating as possible and to make everything work.

The bride already has so much else to worry about, she does not need stupid bridesmaid clashes on top of everything! Let it go....


4 SELFLESS
If you are drama central, do not be a bridesmaid.

Things WILL go wrong, your job is to fix it and calm the bride down! It is not about you!

5 GOOD ATTITUDE: 
The wedding experience is supposed to be fun and positive for everyone involved. The bride does not need you complaining about every.single.thing.

Go with the flow, just chill out and help out when asked and do your very best to make this the very best day of her life.

The bride might be sad that you say no to being her bridesmaid in the short term, but in the long term you are being much more mature and helpful in the wedding process by bowing out early.  The bride would rather you say no than cause a problem in each of the areas listed above.

It might even save your friendship!

Hope this helps any future Brides/bridesmaids.

This is just from my experience as a bridesmaid. I was very lucky to have great Bridesmaids for my wedding!

XOX
Yvette